my boyfriend has bacne and it’s ruining our relationship
So, I fell in love not too long ago. It’s the best, isn’t it? And naturally, over time you start to deeply care for this person and their well-being, as you tend to do when you fall in love, right? You (hopefully) respect this person and want nothing but the best for them. A warm, fuzzy feeling takes over your body when you see them smile, laugh, experience a triumph, or overcome an obstacle. On the flipside, when they’re sad or upset, confused or feeling insecure, all you want to do is cheer them up, relieve their angst, and switch their glass-half-empty mindset to one of glass-overflowing. Why? So they feel better! Makes sense, right? Well, for the most part my boyfriend and I do all of the above for each other. But there is this one outlying situation my boyfriend experiences, and I find myself unable to help him. Bacne. It is not only physically uncomfortable, but the insecurity it can come with (and in my relationship, it does) floods into many different areas of our relationship. And it isn’t just wearing on him. It wears on me. Big time. When we feel insecure (really insecure) about something, it affects everything, doesn’t it? His bacne takes a major toll on our relationship and I lose hope, until eventually we find the solution- together.
My boyfriend has acne on his back. It doesn’t bother me. And it didn’t seem to bother him either in our early dating days. But as a human tendency, once we start spending more time with our new significant other, trust builds and we start to feel safe in the relationship. As a result, we then begin sharing our inner world with this new special person who has come into our lives. It’s then, and only then, that we learn the weaknesses and vulnerabilities in our partner and vice versa. Apparently, the acne on his back or “bacne” is the bane of his existence. I learn he constantly thinks about it. He feels disgusting, unattractive, and less than. And it consumes him.
Visits to my parents’ house are just one of the many things I love about summer. I look forward to the longer days by my parents’ pool. We grill food, hang out, swim, garden, and catch up- it’s hot and we are in our bathing suits. Then I learn why these visits (and any activity that naturally calls for him to be without a shirt) are actually dreaded by my boyfriend. My excitement for summer turns into nervousness and sympathy. My boyfriend’s self-consciousness and inability to escape the loop in his head saying everyone is disgustedly looking at his back wondering what all of those bumps could be. These made up stories are real to him, and when I say they aren’t true, he gets defensive and isolates and as a result, we disconnect. When my nephew asked him what the red bumps were all over his back one day in the pool, it was as if all of his negative self-talk instantly became fact right then, at that moment. He then is no longer himself, shuts down, and embarrassment is all over his face. The next few hours are just plain off. He goes somewhere else, and it is hard to watch. Frustration, sadness, and anger flare up inside of me, all at once, so I decide to take action. I begin t0 research for answers. Then there it is- a secret solution that eventually rescues my boyfriend’s self-esteem and brings it back to him. This miracle product, in turn, ends up being the very thing that saves our relationship.
What is Bacne?
Acne is the most common skin condition among people in the United States. On an annual basis, fifty million Americans are affected by acne. Dirt, dead skin cells, sweat, sebum (our bodies make an oil called sebum to keep our skin and hair from getting too dry, and if too much is made, here come the pimples), and anything that gets trapped in our pores that doesn’t belong there can and will clog them up. The results can be white heads, blackheads, cysts, red bumps, and even nodules (hard, painful lumps deep in the skin that often scar).
Bacne can be caused by the following:
poor diet
hormonal imbalances
stress
family history
poor hygiene (shower, people!)
allergy to skincare products
reaction to a medication you’re taking
ok yeah, yeah, yeah so get to the point, right? What is the Solution for Eradicating Bacne?
My boyfriend would pop, squeeze, and scrub the life out of these nodules/cysts. Pus would come out. And I’d often think, yes you popped them for instant gratification, I get it, but now you could very well get yet another scar. Not to mention, there’s bacteria in that pus, so this is not a clean tactic! By popping that one, did you just birth three more?
Here are the things we incorporated to do away with these pests:
no scrubbing, popping, or squeezing your pimples!
and don’t ask anyone else to either!
shower after exercising
wash your bed sheets at least once a week
wear loose-fitting, cotton shirts
use non-comedogenic (products that won’t block your pores) skin products
wear clean clothes (I hope you’re wearing clean clothes, regardless!)
manage stress levels
He does all of this with vigor, and we see some improvement but not much. I go back to the drawing board. I stumble upon something that catches my immediate attention. Bacne spray. Wow! This is way easier than applying cream. Heaven forbid I’m not home and he can’t reach all of his pimples because as we know, they’re on his back! This was a spray! So easy, so convenient. Who doesn’t like easy and convenient, especially when it comes to fixing something that is swallowing our lives? You’re already exhausted mentally and emotionally by these pests that won’t go away- the last thing you want to do is ask someone to rub acne cream on your back.
So, I buy the bacne spray. He is now growing tired of trying different ways to cure his bacne, but since this is such an easy application process, he thinks, why not? After every shower, he sprays. It feels refreshing! It is simple, quick and it soothes his skin. So he keeps doing it, at least twice a day.
What’s in Bacne Spray?
Salicylic Acid for one thing! What’s that do? Well, it reduces swelling and redness. It unclogs blocked pores which just sounds satisfying but also, a pimple can’t shrink if the pore it’s in is clogged! Other commonly found ingredients in bacne spray include benzoyl peroxide (works as an antiseptic to kill bacteria on your skin’s surface), resorcinol (used as an antiseptic and disinfectant to remove hard/rough skin), and sulfur (agreeable with sensitive skin and known for its antimicrobial properties and ability to exfoliate skin and remove excess oil).
So Why Use Spray Over Creams and Gels?
Simple! It is so much easier and quicker than applying creams and gels. And it’s more efficient because you don’t miss any areas of your back like you do with creams and gels. You don’t have to rely on someone else to apply it, so the burdensome aspect of putting anything on at all is gone. It’s light-weight, absorbs immediately, and it feels revitalizing!
How Fast Does This Stuff Work?
This easy-to-use method of treating bacne shows results at a different speed depending on the person. I know, I’d want a guaranteed time frame too. What I can tell you is this: my boyfriend’s experience (and the experiences of many people to whom I’ve recommended this spray), is nothing short of miraculous. Within just TWO WEEKS of my boyfriend using this spray consistently, we begin to see major improvements and within ONLY ONE MONTH of doing the above suggested tips AND applying his bacne spray, all of his bacne is gone… and so is his low self-esteem.
So To Wrap Up…
Sometimes things that bother me don’t bother him. And things that bring me down don’t affect him at all! I’m sure if I had bacne that wouldn’t go away and nothing I used was helping, my confidence would be down too. Sometimes quick fixes don’t work. And sometimes, like in the circumstance of bacne, they do! With a little effort and compassion, I found the solution. But it was ultimately my boyfriend’s bravery and willingness to keep trying, regardless of his doubts and fears, that has our relationship back on track. He feels good about himself again and it has a ripple effect. I truly think our relationship would have been doomed without this genius product- bacne spray.
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